One of my favorite TV show scenes is from “A Different World” when Whitley is about to marry Byron. The minister goes through a list of commitments the bride and groom are making to each other. He asks Byron if he will follow through, and Byron responds with an “I will.” Whitley is given the same speech and when it’s her turn to confirm, she freezes. Everywhere she turns, she sees Dwayne Wayne’s face. (And if you don’t already know this, Dwayne was her long-time boyfriend, another main character on the show.) So anyway, Whitley’s mother encourages her to say “I will” because the ceremony can’t continue without her verbal confirmation. Just then, Dwayne, who slipped into the wedding without drawing attention to himself, stands up and asks Whitley, “Will you?” It’s a superbly dramatic scene! Dwayne resists the groomsmen who try to wrestle him away from the ceremony, all while asking Whitley to marry him. She says “I do!” Her mom tells the minister to go on with the Byron-groomed ceremony because Whitley said “I do.” The minister sums up the entire scene by asking, “but to whom?!” It’s a fantastic moment. Dwayne and Whitley get married and the crowd cheers. Well, at least her side did.
As I navigate through my 30s, I know I’m closer now to the husband I want to be. The funny part is… I’m still single. But in the things I do, in who I date, I’m aiming towards the “I do.” The big question still remains, though, “but to whom!?”