One things I like to do on this blog is write about relationships. Sometimes my relationships, sometimes other people’s relationships. A few years ago I posted about folks who return to their exes, and sometimes that’s a good thing (rarely!). This post will be along the same lines… but slightly different. I know a woman who has been interested in a man for a few months. She’s been friends with the man for awhile, but the man can’t decide if he wants to date her or another woman on his radar. When I ask my friend, the woman, how things are going with him, she says they are “OK.”
Usually I respond with casual encouragement but lately I’ve wanted to shout from the rooftops… DON’T SETTLE FOR JUST OK!!!!! I want to tell her that she deserves — not “should be,” not “could be,” she DESERVES — to be with a man who’s on cloud 9 with her. The only time the words “just OK” are uttered are whenever he has to be away from her, like on a trip or out to the store.
Now, I’m not saying they must spend every waking second together. We all know how claustrophobia feels. But women (and this goes for men, too), if there is a person out there you’re interested in and they are taking their sweet time deciding between you and another potential partner, evaluate critically what he (or she) is saying. This is not the Bachelorette. The dude needs to make up his mind and give his full self to you or the other woman. Anything less than that is unacceptable and I hope you realize you are worth so much more than “just OK.”
When I chat with my friend again, I hope I have the opportunity to tell her how special she is, that she’s worth a heck of lot more than a dude who is being lazy and almost mean to her. There is a man out there who will adore her as she deserves. Not a guy who strings her along while he has another woman being strung along the same way.
Don’t ever settle or think that is just the way relationships go. You are amazing. You are special. You are not just anybody.
-Out of the Wilderness