Everything fades

Everything fades. Sometimes that’s a sad thing, and sometimes it’s like Will Smith’s haircut in “Fresh Prince of Bel-Air,” a nice fade!

A few weeks ago I was part of a wedding– well, I can hardly call it that– it was an extraordinary three-day event. As a member of the video crew, I got to witness so many amazing rituals and traditions in this Indian wedding. I wasn’t familiar with all the cultural significances of different ceremonial moments on the wedding day, nor was I familiar with the things that went on as part of the union in the two days leading up to the wedding day. That’s right, it was three fun-filled days… did I mention that yet?

I’ve been involved with so many traditional American weddings (30 minutes and out before kick-off of the noon college football games, right!?) and I know what to expect in those. All parts are just as special in those ceremonies but what I saw and learned about in the Indian wedding was simply fascinating. It appears, at least with the folks who were celebrating the bride and groom, that “family” is a very rich and deep word not used lightly. There is lifelong loyalty, encouragement, happiness, respect, and a sense of pride and respect for all the generations represented. One’s roots and cherished loved ones are often represented in American weddings, too, don’t get me wrong. But this one just seemed to be genuinely unique in its inclusion of ages, races, family members from far and wide, and it was cool to witness this while working the event. And now I might as well do a shout out to Foraged Films based in Knoxville, Tennessee. If you need a professional video team for your wedding, this husband and wife duo (and soon to be trio with a little one on the way) will make your wildest dreams come true! OK, that might be overselling, but you won’t find a better team to capture your wedding and not just capture the visuals, but capture the mood and tone and spirit of the special day… or three days :). Check them out on their website or on Instagram.

It’s already been over a week since the epic wedding weekend. The feelings of excitement on that first day, the rush of capturing hundreds of video clips… these moments give way to needing groceries, morning alarm clocks, clipping the dog’s nails, oil changes, and everything else to keep up day to day. The present rules over the past. I guess this post is my way of preserving the past so I can read this and remember the things I saw, heard, and were moved by on this wedding weekend.

One thing I hadn’t ever done before was get a henna tattoo. After wrapping our work for the day, I sat with an amazingly talented artist who decorated my hand.

Impressive, right? Well, you would want to be sitting down when you saw the bride’s henna tattoo work. It was unbelievably good. Seriously, unbelievable. Better than any tattoo I’ve ever seen. So after the henna was applied, I’d catch myself admiring it every day and just marvel at the detail. It was a good reminder of a great experience, from the wedding to the team I worked with, the people I met, the amazing food (PS. glad to have my sense of taste back after having Covid during Christmas!), and not to mention the adventure of camping at an RV resort nearby for those three days. And it was hard to notice at first, but just like the title of this post… everything fades. A few days after getting the henna, I noticed it starting to dull. To disappear.

Now here I sit, typing, and I lift my hand up to take a look and it’s pretty much gone. Everything fades. The good, the bad, the ugly. It’s kind of nice when the bad things fade away, right? But I have a feeling of nostalgia already as something good– the weekend and everything I mentioned before– is fading into history. Well, for me it is… not for the person editing ALL that footage! 🙂

I hope the special moments of that weekend will remain in my memory. I don’t need henna to remember the importance of family, the fleeting moments that might only happen once in a lifetime, camping in beautiful Florida weather (even if it was kind of cold some of those January nights).

So as the ink fades, I’ll look forward to the next amazing moments in my life! Adventure awaits…

-Out of the Wilderness

-Out of the Wilderness

Published by Ben Wilder

Since 2005, I've called Nashville home. I'm the leader of the pack, which includes a 13-year-old beagle and an 11-year-old blue heeler mix. My days include writing, video editing, and other fun activities. Thanks for checking out my blog, I hope you enjoy it!

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