Denver, CO – Matt Richardson recently opened up about a first date with someone he matched with on a popular dating app. The pair had exchanged messages until both felt comfortable meeting “casually for coffee,” as Matt put it. Matt confessed he was still somewhat hesitant about who he’d been chatting with.
“Something looked… off.”
Starbucks. As far as first dates go, finding a place that’s predictable, safe, comfortable is important, Matt explained. He arrived early as to not keep his date waiting. His recollection of the evening is that it generally went well up until the final moments. Sipping the bottom of their grande drinks, Matt hadn’t been able to shake the thought in the back of his mind, only more constantly brought forth in his conscious after meeting in person.
He treaded as lightly as possible when he asked, “Is there anything I should know about you that you’d like to share?” The response didn’t extinguish what was nagging him. He let the conversation wander off as a river through a steep canyon.
Trash tossed into the bin. Smiles exchanged. Keys extracted from pocket and shoulder bag.
Matt opened the coffeeshop door politely as they exited, and casually asked, “I just have to know, are you transgender?” Matt has learned a lesson here. There are a handful of questions men should never, ever ask their dates if they want another date. That’s what Google is for. Matt never saw her (or him–she never answered, just stormed off, shaking her hips in defiance) again. To help Matt and other clueless men out there, here’s a list of questions and phrases to avoid along with alternatives to be used with more tact, even if your woman might possibly be a man.
No: Are you transgender?
Replace with: Tell me about your childhood.
No: How old are you?
Replace with: What year did you graduate high school/college?
No: How far along are you?
Replace with: Are you looking forward to being a parent?
No: You look like my mother.
Replace with: You have a familiar face.
No: Are you a cat lady?
Replace with: Do you go to a lot of protests?
No: Can we talk about politics?
Replace with: How about that weather? Sure is hot out.
No: It’s not you, it’s me.
Replace with: You seem to have your hands full with all the cats.
-OTW News
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