To Date or Not To Date, That Is The Question

I’ve decided to split 2025 in half as a way to distance myself from the first 6 months. Admittedly, it hasn’t been a great year overall up to this point. That’s not to say I’m unhappy or moping around everywhere I go. There have been really great moments with family, friends, triathlon training, trips, and more. But the few lows have kind of stolen the spotlight for the first half of the year. I’m thinking of the gigantic goofball mistake I made back in April. Want to feel good about yourself? Read about my blunder here. I’m also recalling the seven date-rejections in a row. And they weren’t just women politely declining to go on a date with me, or even just a missed friendly get together. Let’s just say the worst that it got was a few months ago: I was on the way to coffee with a woman when she messaged me that she had to back out. I WAS ON THE WAY!!!!! Who does that 30 minutes before? To clarify it more, nothing catastrophic popped up in her life. She didn’t just find out her mom died or that she won the lottery. She just simply cancelled on me and said she wasn’t mentally in the right place. What’s worse, this was the 2nd time she said yes then said no. I guess I’m a sucker for punishment, aren’t I? Want to hear something even worse? A couple of days ago I saw her on a dating app. Still waiting on that text where she’ll tell me she’s in the right headspace now.


No need to dwell on the negative things, though. The second half of this year is going to be great. In fact, I’ve already gone on a date and it was just what I needed. We got pizza and talked for nearly 2 hours. She’s kind, sweet, funny and completely separate from whether it turns into a second date, I’m very happy that even a first date happened at all. I’ll admit I expected her to cancel sometime on the day of the date but I think she was as excited as I was. How refreshing when someone does what they say they’re going to do! So old-fashioned, so mature.


I’m determined to make the next 6 months better than the last 6. I can’t do it on my own and obviously things will happen that are out of my control but by the grace of God I won’t make any dumb mistakes and maybe, just maybe I’ll have a second dinner date sometime soon.


-Out of the Wilderness


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Since 2005, I've called Nashville home. I'm the leader of the pack, which includes a 13-year-old beagle and an 11-year-old blue heeler mix. My days include writing, video editing, and other fun activities. Thanks for checking out my blog, I hope you enjoy it!

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