“You’ve done nothing wrong” – The worst thing you could say during a breakup – a Bachelorette breakdown

I haven’t been watching much of The Bachelorette this season – the one featuring Katie Thurston – because I can think of 2,392 things I rather be doing than watch Katie figure out which guys she wants to sleep with (all of them), who to give the final rose to, and how long till she can break up with the guy she will have just given the final rose to. I mean, let’s be honest… this is the show’s formula for the last handful of seasons, especially since contestant Nick Viall finally said out loud what we already knew, sex happens in the fantasy suites. Since then, intimacy has become the focus of every episode of every season.

The show doesn’t seem to be about finding true love anymore (was it ever? who knows!) BUT! I happened to turn it on for a few minutes on Monday evening and caught a line that reconfirms why I won’t be watching this show consistently anymore.

Moments after a kiss where Katie didn’t feel the spark she was hoping for, she said to fan-favorite Connor, “You’ve done nothing wrong.” Yes, this signaled the end of Connor’s time on the show. Katie surely meant this as an encouragement to Connor but here in the real world, it’s the most hurtful thing you could say to someone during a break-up.

Saying they’ve done nothing wrong sounds good on the surface, but think about it: Katie said he did everything right and she STILL doesn’t like him. At least if he had done something wrong he might could fix it. She basically said I like everything about you, I just don’t like you.


I get it. She didn’t want to hurt his feelings. She might not be one to say hard things. Maybe she doesn’t like confrontation. But what she said was a slap in the face. And I feel slapped in the face for having watched it.

That’s 10 minutes of my life I’ll never get back.

What are some other break-up phrases people use that sound good, but are actually cruel and unusual punishment? Comment below and thanks for stopping by!

-Out of the Wilderness

Published by Ben Wilder

Since 2005, I've called Nashville home. I'm the leader of the pack, which includes a 13-year-old beagle and an 11-year-old blue heeler mix. My days include writing, video editing, and other fun activities. Thanks for checking out my blog, I hope you enjoy it!

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