The Bachelorette- something I liked about Tayshia Adams

Say what you want about Tayshia Adams taking over the Bachelorette when Clare went ga-ga over Dale and swiftly left the show… with Dale… (and most people LOVE Tayshia), I noticed one of her Bachelorette habits that I really liked. If you’re not familiar with the show, one thing they do is have group dates. This is where the Bachelorette goes on a date with a handful of guys. At the end of this date it’s expected that there will be one rose handed out which guarantees the person receiving it stays around for another week.

Usually there is a moment where the person gets the rose then meanders around to find the one contestant they want to give it to. With Tayshia in this situation, she did just that but before giving the rose to one guy, she would single out a few of them and say really positive things about her time with them. She complimented them and built them up and then would give the rose to one of them. I think that sort of approach probably had a great affect on the morale of the guys individually and as a group.

Break it to me gently, as the song goes. At least it wasn’t a blow to all the other guys when just one got the group date rose. There were compliments given and I think even for the guys not getting the rose, this softened the edge of not getting the rose.

I like the idea of being complimentary like she was in these situations. I’ve already incorporated a similar thing in my own world, and I will try to do it more and more as I have the opportunity. However, I will never be auditioning for the show.

Do you think her attempt at building the guys up can apply and have benefits in the real world? Chime in below with your comments!

-Out of the Wilderness

Favorite non-Elvis, Elvis performances

In honor of Elvis Presley’s birthday (tomorrow, Jan 8th), I thought I’d compile a short list of performances that have stuck with me over the years. These are from movies, YouTube, and TV, and feature songs made famous by Elvis. I’ll just be honest, they’re mostly “Can’t Help Falling in Love” performances, except for this first one…


Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson in The Game Plan (2007)

Kina Grannis singing in wedding scene from Crazy Rich Asians (2018)

YouTubers Powerfox and Poneymane, one of whom tried out for American Idol years ago (2010)

Lisa Donnelly during Ashley and JP’s Bachelor Wedding Special (2012)


Do you have any to add to this list? Chime in with a comment below!

Thanks for stopping by…

-Out of the Wilderness

The Bachelorette Clare Crawley debuts tonight!

Once upon a time I blogged about The Bachelor/ette franchise. I liked all my posts, and even loved some of them, like this one confessing this show is my guilty pleasure. It’s been less pleasure and more annoying as the seasons have gone on, mostly because of the maniacal producers setting up the drama. In fact, that’s why I boycotted last season. But alas, Clare Crawley is the star of the season making its debut tonight.

I have liked Clare Crawley from her first appearance on the Bachelor, back when Juan “esss okkkk” Pablo was the one searching for love. Then I fell in love with her as she delivered a total rejection of Juan “esss okkkk” Pablo. She was the one of the last two contestants Juan “esss okkkk” Pablo was to choose from and he chose the other woman. As he feigned heartbreak over the decision, she unleashed havock upon his soul. Take a look, it was pretty amazing.

So yeah, I’m a fan. To be totally honest, I was a fan of Juan “esss okkkk” Pablo, too, until we all got to know him. He had appeared on the Bachelorette and came off as being very likable, probably because he barely talked. Once he became the Bachelor…

As I mentioned earlier, I have actually given up on entire seasons of the Bachelor/ette because of the fakeness orchestrated by producers, but I’ll watch tonight as Clare welcomes a million guys to the mansion hoping to right what Juan “esss okkkk” Pablo did wrong. Plus, it’ll be interesting as the season goes on (if I’m still watching) how they handle the mask/covid situation.

If you’re watching tonight, what are you most looking forward to? What are you least looking forward to?

-Out of the Wilderness

Did The Bachelor jump the shark?

Just a quick Twitter check and I immediately realized I wasn’t the only one ticked off about the path the producers of this show decided to take in last night’s episode featuring a date with Peter and Victoria F. The lengths they’ll go through for drama/ratings/making a woman cry are limitless.

So to quickly recap: Peter and the women were whisked off to Paris Thailand Cleveland… which, when announced that this was their destination, drew silence from the women as if it were a joke. No, no, ladies the joke is still yet to come. Why Cleveland? Well, country star Chase Rice is performing there and producers have a little dirt on ol’ Victoria F. She dated Chris and now the setup has begun.

Peter “randomly” picked Victoria F. for a one-on-one date that ended with them attending a concert. Who was performing? Chase Rice, of course! Awkwardness ensued when Victoria F. felt terrible that they had to attend the concert of an ex-boyfriend.

Water under the bridge is how it should’ve been handled by Peter and Victoria because Heaven forbid it that Victoria has dated someone before Peter. Heck, only 2 episodes ago Peter’s ex- was sitting in his lap. So let by-gone’s be by-gone’s, right? Victoria’s tears were so unnecessary.

The issue here is the producers evil orchestrating of these events. Reports also say that Chase Rice wasn’t too happy about what happened either. Do they really want true love to be found on this show? Or do they just want ratings? Let’s break down all the things that had to be orchestrated in this “reality” show episode.


Finding out Victoria F. dating Chase Rice…

Chase Rice performing in Ohio…

Chase performance coinciding with the filming window of this season of The Bach…

bring the entire cast to Cleveland as an “fun” destination…

ensure Peter asks Victoria F. for this one-on-one date…

don’t let either of them know what’s about to happen…


I know most of us already consider this show to only loosely be categorized as “reality TV” but this was way past the line. To make this Chase/Victoria drama a reality, look at everything that had to be pieced together. The chances of Peter asking Victoria F. for the one-on-one in this exact moment were so low, I have a strong feeling he was “encouraged” to pick her for this date. I mean, what if he had picked one of the other women? So much drama would’ve never happened.

That’s why I think the producers orchestrated everything to happen the way it did. To put Victoria through this stress, to embarrass Peter and Victoria (and Chase!) that way, it shows they don’t really care about anyone finding love… and it’s not like the show has a track record of success in that regard, anyway.

I won’t even get into the part about Alayah making a comeback after being eliminated last week. Rules? What rules? If you don’t get a rose, it doesn’t matter. Just come back and we’ll see what we can do for you, mmmmk?

Last night’s episode of The Bachelor might be the last I ever watch. In fact, I didn’t even watch the whole episode, I was too turned off by it all. Instead, I turned on the Amazon original movie, Troop Zero, and what a treat that was! I’ll have a review posted soon but if you haven’t checked it out yet, do yourself a favor and watch it.

-Out of the Wilderness

A white woman has a 61% chance of winning The Bachelor

Episode 3 included a lot of drama and because of that, instead of 3 women, 4 women were sent home… for now. (spoiler alert! Alayah returns next week!)

At the conclusion of this episode, there are 8 white women still there, 4 black women, and 1 Asian. Here are the stats!

White – 8 (down 2 from last week)

Black – 4 (down 1 from last week)

Asian – 1 (down 1 from last week)

Chance of winning…

A black woman: 30.8% (up 1.5% since episode 2)

An Asian woman: 7.7% (down 4% since episode 2)

A white woman: 61.5% (up 3% since episode 2)

Among the white women there are 3 blondes, 4 brunettes, and still Lexie as the lone redhead. As a ginger, she has a 7.7% chance of winning it all. A brunette has a 31% of winning, and a blonde has a 23% chance of winning.

Thanks for stopping by!

-Out of the Wilderness