The Problem with Being Yourself on a Date

Whether you’re a guy or girl, it’s normal to get nervous before a date. We’ve all been there. In fact, even the dates I didn’t put must stock in, I still found myself being nervous (see “This Was Not A Date” and “After The Final Tulip”). More often than any advice I get is the encouragement to “be yourself!” But isn’t that kind of the problem? Because myself is nervous! Might I suggest two other solutions for the nerves, neither are to “be yourself.” First, you can try acting. Pretend you’re a character in a movie but the character is the “normal you.” So on the one hand you’re nervous, but on the other, you’re playing the part of you when you’re not nervous. The second option is pretty much out of your hands, actually. The responsibility rests in the other person on the date (and if this ends up working, it’s a very good sign for the relationship). Like I said earlier, it’s normal to be nervous before a date, however if you find yourself so comfortable around them that you forget to be nervous, that’s an ideal environment to be in. Because then, and only then, will you realize that you truly can “be yourself!” How about you? Have you found any methods that help calm your nerves before a big date? Feel free to share in the comments below!

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3 thoughts on “The Problem with Being Yourself on a Date

  1. I’ve taken to cracking a joke even before meeting up with the guy for the first time. Like a couple of a months ago I told him I’d be the one in the big pink sequin dress, then asked if that was too much for the first date. It kind of broke the ice once we met up.

  2. Don’t be nervous. Just go in remembering that the person that lands a catch like you is going to think you’re perfect. All the others don’t matter because they aren’t right for you anyways.

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