When a Facebook Marketplace deal feels more like a shady Craigslist deal

I’ve been selling stuff on Facebook Marketplace like the apocalypse is tomorrow. Everything from cameras to golf balls to yard tools, all of it has a price tag.

Most buyer interactions go fine. They really do. Except for that one guy who drove away cussing me out. That’s a whole other story! Those stories are very few and far between, though. The drama in this story started when someone reached out about an item I listed and wanted to come get it immediately. That’s fine with me, except that it was about 8pm. It just feels different when it’s dark out, don’t you think? I rarely give out my address when asked where I live so I wasn’t about to do that until this person was basically heading out their door (I give them a nearby address so they can at least know approximately where I am). In hindsight, I should have just met in a public place because it was getting late, really dark, and bad things happen in the dark. Anyway, it was a woman I had been conversing with on Facebook. She kept calling me buddy, which might have been the first red flag! She said she was on the way and sent her phone number. I sent my address and then the phone conversation happened. Second red flag, it wasn’t a woman on the phone, it was a man. Supposedly the woman’s boyfriend. He said he was a little over 20 minutes away. The item is one you plug in to power on, so I told him because of COVID that he can’t come in my house but I can plug it in and show him through the door that it works. He was fine with that.

Meanwhile, I had 20 minutes to mentally go through various potential scenarios for how this could go down. In that time, and I won’t get into specifics, but I was able to put a few safeguards in place to protect myself and keep the upper hand. One was clipped to my waistband. The other was a few steps away, and practically loaded. 

The gentleman showed up and I met him outside by the driveway. I met him as he got out of his car, which was a good way to size him up before he would have an opportunity to approach my door. We then went through the process of verifying that the item powers on. He stayed by the transparent storm door, but still got a little closer than I preferred. He was nice enough. The third red flag was that he asked a couple of questions that a pessimist would call invasive. It almost seemed as if he was curious about what else I had in the house, and that didn’t sit well with me. I envisioned what would happen if he made any sort of move towards me.  

In the end, there wasn’t any drama. I wouldn’t say it was “much ado about nothing,” but I’m glad he paid for the item and left without incident. Hindsight is 20/20 so looking back at it now, I could’ve, and should’ve, done a few things differently. I didn’t put myself in a good situation, and in fact, I willingly put myself in what could’ve been a bad situation.

Next time I won’t be meeting at my house and definitely not after sunset. I know there are plenty of good people out there, but why take chances and especially, why make it easy for them? I’ll chalk this up as a learning experience that I’m grateful for, especially that the red flags weren’t a sign of actual danger.

Have you had any experiences like this? How did you handle it and what did you learn from it? Comment below and thanks for stopping by!

-Out of the Wilderness

Lyrics and more from the Progressive / Addams Family TV commercial

Progressive and Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer offer up a great example of integrated marketing (definition, paraphrased: one advertisement promotes two or more businesses/entities). Check it out below…

The lyrics. The clever lyrics to the tune of the original Addams Family theme song are as follows:

They’re nice but irritating, their excitement can get grating, they’re dressed for pastry baking, The Progressive family. They’re helpful but annoying, they always leave us snoring, accidents are boring with the Progressive family.

Annoying but endearing. The descriptive words in this ad, which would be hurtful and negative in a normal world, are badges of honor for Flo and the gang. Flo, Jamie, and the crew are attentive to details in all their ads, and while they’re often perceived as annoying, the truth is the ads are meant to make the characters likeable and funny. And funny, they are!

One of my recent favorites is… a “day off” at the lake.

The apron. Does anyone know why Flo often wears an apron? That little fact is referenced in the Addams family ad, “they’re dressed for pastry baking.” Quite odd, but it definitely ads to her character!


How do you feel about the integrated marketing ad with Progressive and the Addams Family? Chime in below and thanks for stopping by!

-Out of the Wilderness

When you’re a boss Quarterback

The other day I was watching the Tampa Bay Bucs, quarterbacked by Tom Brady. He’s known as the GOAT because of his many Super Bowl rings and his overall domination as a QB. Side note, it’s also really cool that he seems to be such a family man. After the game in his post game interview on the field he said hey to his kids and something like, Dad loves you! I thought that was so humble and real. OK, OK, back to the point of this post. During the game he had great throws, as usual. But I saw something I’ve never seen a quarterback do. I’m not saying they don’t do it, I just can’t recall ever seeing it happen in a game. 

To set it up, QBs for have helmets with communication devices so they can hear coaches from the sidelines. It helps in loud environments. The playcall comes in to a little headset (I don’t know the exact specifics) and the QB then relays the call to the rest of the team in the huddle. Well, on one particular play Brady was just outside the huddle, looking over at the sidelines as he presumably heard what they were calling through his helmet. I believe it was a third down, but no matter what, it was in a time of the game where the upcoming play was very important. The Bucs needed a first down. All of the sudden Brady with some fire says, “No! No!” He was telling the playcaller on the sideline the called play was not what he wanted to run. He must’ve got a call he approved of because he joined the huddle and relayed the plan. 

Set. Hike. He received the snap, threw the ball to a receiver and they got the first down. 

I was SO impressed. It wasn’t about the play that was called, although it was successful. It was how Brady was a leader, demanding a play that he knew would work. When the first few calls came in, he rejected them. Of course, young quarterbacks probably wouldn’t risk this kind of behavior but it’s Brady we’re talking about. 

Have you ever noticed something like this in sports? Whether it’s football or any other competition, sometimes the player in the game knows better what will work and in Brady’s case, I’d say go with whatever he wants to do. After all, he’s the GOAT, ya know. 

-Out of the Wilderness

Is this radical idea enough to save America from its politics?

I think I have a solution to the tense political climate in the US. Only because my faith is small that everyone would give God a chance, which would be the ultimate solution, I have this idea that would surely calm things down. I don’t think it has ever been tried before, but at the rate we’re going, we may need a radical idea like this to save us from ourselves.

A presidential election is coming in 2024. Imagine not being so divided by political lines and because we all care about the future of the country (even politicians care, in this fantasy scenario), instead of just having a democrat ticket (pres and vice pres) and a republican ticket (same, pres and vice pres), there are 4 or 5 or more pairs of nominees representing both major parties and anyone else who wanted to run.

It would look like this, for instance. Running for president: A democrat. As his (or her) running mate for vice president: a republican. Or the other way around, pres is republican and vice pres is democrat. You could definitely throw in anyone else, whether they’re independent or whatever.

There might be some folks who protest this idea and I would be very interested in their reasoning, but this seems like a great idea to me. With more choices, we as the voters would have more quality candidates to choose from. That’s a win. 

Playing it forward, once whoever wins takes office, the president would almost be forced to work with a compromising spirit (which is what we all want, right?) because the vice president (who is from the other party) would be right there to speak on behalf of the party they represent. If I were a republican and there was a republican president, I wouldn’t mind a democrat vice president. And if Biden were president, I would sure as heck want a conservative as vice president. 

I know it’s not a perfect plan; there are sneaky people who would love to remove the president so the vice president could take over, but there would still be the requirement to have the new vp selected from the other party.

What do you think about this idea? What are some pros and cons on its possibility for success? 

Thanks for stopping by! 

-Out of the Wilderness

Does sleep position affect dreams?

I’m SO sure I’m the first person to ever say this… dreams can be so weird! I won’t get into specifics about the meaning of dreams because last time I checked I wasn’t a scientist or biologist or whatever those people are called who study these things.

My most recent dream was about a surprise attack in a little beachside town on the coast of the United States. I could verify the planes flying over were a foreign enemy using my amateur knowledge of airplanes gleaned from where my house in Nashville is located: right along the flight path of planes taking off and landing. I see all sorts of different aircraft, so that was interesting in the dream. Although the story is still very vivid in my mind, I rather talk about WHY I dream in certain ways, whether it’s positive, negative, or anywhere in between. 

I’ve discovered something about my sleeping patterns. When I sleep on my back facing up at the ceiling, I almost always have bad dreams. I am confident saying it’s a bad dream 99.9% of the time. However, if I sleep on my back with my head turned left or right, dreams are only bad most of the time… call it 60-70%. 

When I sleep on my belly or side, dreams are all over the spectrum, some good some bad. But I just think it’s so interesting that when I sleep on my back, it means I’ll be having nightmares. As they say in the south, I’m fixin’ to research this. Right now I don’t know if it’s something physical happening (I suspect it is, perhaps the way the brain is situated in my head in this particular sleeping position). 

How about you? Have you noticed any differences in your dreams based on your sleeping position? Totally unrelated self-promotion, check out this post on how I would guess a few celebrities sleep, based on their personalities. 

Thanks for stopping by!

-Out of the Wilderness