Would you rather date through Facebook, or go on The Bachelor?

Ever since the dawn of man, men have been trying to get it right with the ladies. Heck, Adam was the very first Bachelor contestant, right?

But there is nothing easy about deciding to be on The Bachelor, I’m sure. A lot of your dating history will be exposed to millions of people who will either cheer for you (which would be awesome, I guess), or cringe (which is most likely). Then there are the tears.

So. Much. Crying.

If you watch the show, or any of it’s spinoffs like The Bachelorette, Bachelor Pad, Bachelor in Paradise you know exactly what I mean when I say these people are… what’s the word… interesting. Most of them think being on the show is their one last shot at finding true love. Most of them are also under the age of 25.

Bless their hearts. Then, if one of these young’ns don’t get a rose, they bawl their eyes out because they thought they had found “the one.” After 3 days of being part of the cast. Barely knowing the person’s last name.

Well, getting dumped on national TV is no longer their last chance of getting rejected!!! Facebook has entered the game.  Facebook wants to be for single people what Alex “Hitch” Hitchens was to Albert Brennaman. 

So romantic. Really, it is. But does Facebook have any hope of being a successful matchmaker? I’ll say this… using an established social network to romantically connect people together makes a lot of sense. There are millions of people who have millions of friends in common, so perhaps this could be a way for friends to meet friends of friends… people they wouldn’t have met otherwise.

I just have my doubts as someone who’s tried a handful of dating platforms.

You see, what I’ve heard from my female friends is this: guys on dating sites are mostly one of 3 types. The creepy guy. The runner. The player.

[creepy guy]

Creepy guys are hard to explain because they can appear in a few different ways. But mostly, and this is just based on what I’ve heard from female friends, they’re clingy, or as soon as a woman doesn’t respond right away or asks a question about the guy’s authenticity the dude gets defensive and hurtful.

The runner is the guy that has a lot of potential in the beginning but as time wears on the other shoe drops. Meaning this… he’s got something in his DNA that won’t let him get to the place where a relationship can last. So he either ghosts, or just goes away, blaming himself.

The player. This one is easy to define. Sex. His first message is something like, “Hey baby” or “Ur fine” or something super genuine like that. 😉

They want one thing and one thing only.

Here’s another truth for you… when women join a dating site, they are flooded with messages, matches, winks, whatever. While that could be flattering, it’s actually really overwhelming. And from a friend who checked out the Facebook dating “portal,” it hasn’t been any different. She said the influx of matches caused her to delete her dating profile.

Sucks for the ladies who are on “here for the right reasons,” and for the dudes who are genuinely “looking for their person.”

So why would Facebook be any different from dating apps that exist currently? I can’t think of a solid reason except for the friends of friends thing. In that regard, it does open up more options than The Bachelor ever will, because nowadays, they’re all just dating each other. Yes, we’re looking at you Blake from Stagecoach.

He. Sounds. Hideous.

Have you tried the Facebook dating thing? Have you auditioned for the Bachelor? Chime in below and let’s get a conversation going!

-Out of the Wilderness

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The woman in Keith Urban’s video “Blue Ain’t Your Color”

Keith Urban’s latest single is #1 on most of Billboard’s country charts, and the video stars one of the most well-known supermodels. Her name is Amber Valletta.

[click here for more about Keith Urban’s new video “We Were”, the post will open in a new window]

screen-shot-2017-01-10-at-1-30-49-pmscreen-shot-2017-01-10-at-1-31-14-pmscreen-shot-2017-01-10-at-1-31-28-pmAmber Valleta GoogleI remember her most from her role in the movie Hitch*, starring Will Smith and Kevin James. In that movie, she played a likable superstar actress. Here’s a great scene from Hitch:

She’s been in other movies, tv shows, and various projects.
-Out of the Wilderness

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10 Signs He’s Into You

He uses his phone to call you, not just text. Remember the good ol’ days when you sat by the phone and waited, then the excitement when the phone rang? Not only is calling a sign of a confident man who likes you, it’s also classy.

He answers the phone when you call. He’s not playing games with you. If he can, he answers because the girl he really likes is calling him. That’s a big deal.

He responds to your message the same day. If he likes you, he’ll probably call before it’s been “days later” unless he’s playing games.

He organizes events just so you’ll attend. Facebook events page, anyone? If you score an invite to a group outing to watch wrestling at the Stadium Inn because you love Arick “The Dragon” Andrews, it could mean the event was all planned for you.

Interested in an embarrassingly funny real-life dating story? I’ve got one worth a read 🙂 Just click here!

He likes having inside jokes with you. This is a little thing that means a whole lot. It connects the two of you in a place where no one else is connected. So if inside jokes are a part of your relationship, chances are he wants to know you more.

He asks to spend time with you. Spending his free time with you is the biggest compliment. What he’s saying is that of all the things he could be doing, he wants to be with you. Obviously, that’s huge.

He asks in person or on the phone to see you. Doing this takes guts, and shows he likes you, or at the very least, thinks you’re interesting. If he texts you and asks you to dinner or something, then he may not care as much as you’re hoping he does.

He says ‘yes’ when you ask to spend time with him. He could’ve said ‘no.’ Even if he has other plans, he’ll cancel them at the chance to spend time with you. “When your wondering what to say, or how you look… just remember… she is already out with you. That means, she said yes, when she could’ve said no.” -from the movie Hitch* (can be applied to males or females)

He never talks to you about other girls. I talk to some of my female friends about girls I like. I never talk to girls I like about girls I like.

He tells you personal things about his family. Letting anyone in on family stories is usually a big deal. This means he trusts you with what may possibly be most important to him, his family. Disregard this if the family he speaks of is his wife.

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Learn Slow But Steadfast

I have no fear of drowning, it’s the breathing that’s taking all this work.
“Work” by Jars of Clay

I was laying in a bed around midnight but before I drifted off to sleep, I said a few little prayers. Those are often times my most honest conversations with the Lord. In fact, there are days I get down on my knees to pray before going to sleep and after the “Amen,” I climb in bed and that’s when the real praying begins. I confess to Him my desires, hoping that Psalm 145:19 is a promise I can count on. I’ve leaned on it in the past and God did not fail me, so I put a lot of hope in that being the case each time I cast my cares on Him. This particular midnight prayer came after attending the Chicago world premiere of “The Dilemma” starring Vince Vaughn, Kevin James, Jennifer Connelly, Winona Ryder and Channing Tatum.

Ticket to World Premiere of The Dilemma

There’s a scene in the movie where Vince Vaughn’s character has a honest conversation with God. He says something like this: I know I’m supposed to give you things, but I just can’t give you this.” I was surprised by the emotional scene in a movie that was marketed as a comedy. I could’ve been Vince Vaughn sitting on the bus bench in that scene. He was in the middle of a dilemma (is that surprising?) without a good solution to fix it. When he was at his lowest, he turned to God for help. I loved that. Returning to the hotel afterwards, I watched a little television, then went down for the night. As I prayed, I thought about the things that I’ve given over to the Lord, and the things I haven’t. What I’m holding with an open hand, and what I won’t let go of. I was compelled to raise an open hand as I laid there, to loosen the grip on what I think I have control over. But to open my hand, to let go, is to no longer have control. It’s living out of control.

I didn’t raise my hand that night. I’ve chosen to hold onto the snake that keeps biting me for another day. Maybe the venom won’t kill me. When will I trust Him enough to open a raised hand so he can put bread in it?

How long till suffering makes me steadfast?