On having jury duty and getting laid off in the same week

Well, jury duty was very interesting. Maybe I’d have a different opinion if it was more than getting a chance to observe in real-life something I only typically see on TV. And now I’d like to thank my parents for raising me well enough that court is something I only typically see on TV. As a potential juror, I experienced a lot in the two days required of me. It was fascinating, even if the actual case sounded somewhat trivial. One person wants money, the other doesn’t want to give them money. Which means it was a civil case, as opposed to criminal.

“You can’t handle the truth!”

That line from A Few Good Men? Criminal case.

“Show me the money!”

That line from Jerry Maguire? Not a court case at all, but more likely to be said in a civil case unless you’re Cuba Gooding, Jr. Then you’re saying it all the time because hey, you’ve got the kwan.

One thing I learned is that in a civil case, the plaintiff has the burden of proof to show the accusations made are more likely true. In criminal, it’s the “beyond a reasonable doubt” we always here on TV (again, something I’ve never heard in real life, thanks Mom and Dad). I also learned about cases that involve someone stealing the spouse of someone else. Yeah, it has a name… Alienation of Affection. Crazy stuff.

“What’s love got to do with it?”

Evidently nothing. Alienation of Affection is a civil case because it’s about money. Unless O.J. Simpson’s involved. Then it would probably turn into criminal. But he’s innocent. I’m just speaking hypothetically.

On day 2 of the jury selection process, it was my turn to answer questions from the judge and the 2 attorneys. This is where they ask a laundry list of questions to find out if I’m fit to be a juror on this particular case. The thing is, I would’ve been a juror if they’d ask me all the questions before our lunch break.

Timing is everything.

After our 1-hour break for lunch, the judge began asking me his questions. The first, “What’s your employment?” My answer, “Actually, during lunch I was laid off.” What!? Laid off during lunch!? That never happens! I don’t know if it was compassion, or doubting I could make a clear judgement, but I was released from the jury. So the case was left up to 12 other people not named Ben. All of which had jobs. So I got broken up with twice on the same day! Ouchy. I returned to work to face the music.

“Gentlemen, this is the final rose of the night.”

Those words from the Bachelorette definitely apply to my last day at work. A lot of people were eliminated, and I was one of them. I found people throughout the building and said my goodbyes. Hugs. Laughter. Encouragement. I promised myself I wouldn’t cry in the limousine ride to the airport. Wait, what? No. I collected my things, got in my car, and drove away from the parking garage, knowing as I left this was the last time I’d be at CMT for a long time. Things will forever be different.

I got home to be greeted by the wagging tails of my dogs. We went to the dog park. I ate dinner. I watched another episode of Arrested Development.

“Just so you have it… because then at least you’ll have it.”

What I have is confidence that I did good work at CMT. I worked hard. People liked me. A few of my closest friends came from my time in that building. Some of them I even Snapchat with. I’m different now than I was when I started way back in 2006. I’ve got more confidence in what I can offer professionally. I’ve grown and blossomed more than just professionally. I have no regrets working for CMT, who’s most popular show right now features a lifestyle I only typically see on TV. Yes, I’m referring to Party Down South (thanks Mom and Dad!).

On to the next thing!
-Out of the Wilderness

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The Bachelorette: Desiree

Desiree: You saw me, killin’ it?
Sean: Smashing people.
(from “The Bachelor” Episode 3 group date after playing volleyball)

Barring a meltdown, I predict Desiree to win the final rose and a proposal from Sean. The chemistry is better between those two than Sean and any other girl in the mansion. There are a few top contenders, of course, like the wedding dress girl Lindsay, and AshLee F. but the conversation Sean had with Desiree during the group date in episode 3 confirms she’s a top 3 finisher. If not, Sean is crazy. I mean, look at this face!
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The Bachelor Ben Flajnik Episode 5: From Courtney’s Point of View

In the spirit of artistic license, this post is sponsored by, written like she would write, and straight out of the wacky head of the lovely girl-you-don’t-cross, Courtney. Enjoy her review of each of the remaining contestants, as seen on episode 5!

From tropical Puerto Rico…

I’m so hot, Puerto Rico called and made reservations to visit me in the summer.

Nicki got the first date, but hey Nicki, a consignment shop from Miami in the early 1990s called and said it wants it’s dress back.

Hey everybody, the cat Ben and Nicki saw on their date called and said please stop saying it’s raining it and dogs.

A few of us went on a group date to Roberto Clemente Stadium. Hey girls, Roberto Clemente called and said you’re white, stop trying to say my name like you’re not.

Jennifer struck out and lost the baseball game. Hey Jennifer, irony called and asked if you understood what just happened?

That’s right, my team won the game. Charlie Sheen called and said hashtag winning!

Blakeley cried after her team lost. Hey Blakeley, Duke and the University of North Carolina called and said at least you didn’t have to play basketball against Florida State.

Hey Casey S., America called and asked who the blonde is on the show. I said Emily? They said no. I said Casey? They said no, Kacie has brown hair. I said well there’s a Casey with blonde hair. They said oh, I’m not familiar.

Emily, oh Emily. My sh*t list called and said you’re still on it.

Hey Rachel, the tattoo on your lower back called and asked if you could go on Ink Masters for a cover up.

Oh by the way, Ben, the ocean called and said it wants us to get naked. I texted back that we’d be right there.

Elyse got the second one-on-one date. Hey Elyse, 1999 called and wants their belly button ring back. Sorry you didn’t get a rose, and by sorry I mean hahahaha.

Hey show producers, David Gray called and said you don’t have to play his song during every episode.

Hey Jamie, Joran Van Der Sloot called and wants advice on how to be more forgettable. Give him a call and just tell him to stop killing people, that’ll help. Btw, I think I saw him on the beach staring at us.

Kacie B., permanent haircut called and said it wants itself back.

Lindzi C., your horse Levi called and said come home. He’s got no one to watch Homeward Bound with.

Elyse went home without a rose. Don’t worry Elyse, you didn’t do anything wrong, you just didn’t do anything right. Jennifer also went home without a rose. I guess kissing well isn’t enough to win Ben’s heart. Hello, you gotta get naked… hashtag winning! 

Ali Fedotowsky The Bachelorette, Episode 11. Roberto vs. Chris L.

This episode comes to us from “everybody goes here on their 6th date” Bora Bora. All I can do is extend a hearty congratulations to Roberto for earning the very first rose, and now the last. It’s been dramatic, embarrassing, funny, thrilling, scary, and that was just the Jake/Vienna confrontation episode. Good luck to Roberto and Ali.

My advice to Roberto:
Stay humble and be a good man.

My advice to Chris L.:
Move on, brother. You’ll be fine without her.

My advice to Ali:
Stop going to the tanning bed as soon as and/or before your body is darker than your face. That goes for men and women everywhere. I’m just saying.

In the words of my junior high yearbook signature, it’s been real. It’s been fun. But it hasn’t been real fun.

Ben.

P.S. the best commercial out right now is Geico asking how much a bird in the hand is worth. They show Antique Roadshow and the expert is pricing how much a bird in a statue hand is worth. He concludes that it’s worth two in the bush. Great commercial.

Chris Lambton Tattoo Pictures (from Ali Fedotowsky’s Season of the Bachelorette)

Sidenote: I will be recapping each episode of the 2011 Bachelor featuring Brad Womack. Click here for more info about his search for love.

Chris Lambton, one of the two final bachelors, has a tattoo of his mother’s signature. Check out pictures below.

chris l tattoo

 I will be recapping each episode of the 2011 Bachelor featuring Brad Womack. Click here for more info about his search for love.

Ali Fedotowsky The Bachelorette, Episode 2.

Welcome back! Episode 2 of The Bachelorette was full of drama, laughter, smiles, some kissing, and oh yeah, a downpour of corny weather jokes. Ali is obviously the star of the show, but this episode featured a subplot: the mounting surge of dislike between Jonathan the Weatherman and Craig M. from Canada. After watching the episode back, Jonathan spoke more of Craig M. than he did of Ali! Even during the one-on-one time with Ali, the conversation revolved around Craig M. Sidenote #1: You don’t win a girl’s heart by talking about other guys. It’s like going to a job interview and talking about someone else’s resume. Or better yet, talking about someone else’s cloud cover, if you know what I mean! Get it? Get it??? Ok, moving on. In this episode we saw Ali go on one group date and two individual dates. She had a rose for each date, so three guys could get a rose before the final ceremony, in which three are also getting eliminated. First date card goes to Clark Kent, I mean Frank. I don’t know how, but he’s already head over heels for Ali. That should worry you. He’s already said he feels like they’re a couple, even calling her his girlfriend. He may be good, but too much of a good thing is bad and I can see him smothering her to death. His over-the-top and lightning-quick commitment to her is the perfect set up for a meltdown. Even the big fins on the 1959 Cadillac they rode in won’t save Frank from himself. And hey, those were big fins! Frank is involved in too many adventures to be committed to one. Highlight of their one-on-one date:
They drink wine on the hood of the car. Ali teases Frank with the rose.
They eat cupcakes.

Lots of drama at the house in this episode. Craig R. is still suspect of Justin’s intentions and calls him out on it. The date card arrives. A couple of Craigs, Chris’, and a few others head to the beach for a photo shoot with photographer Michael Grecco. Chris Harrison explained the reason for the photo shoot: a calendar! Proceeds of the calendar sales go to an unnamed charity. Sidenote #2: Christmas shopping, done.

The guys were happy to be with Ali at the beach, but the winner on this date was Kirk for quoting a line from Dumb & Dumber. Nice move. After a randomly placed tug-of-war clip, Ty had photos taken while he sang to Ali. None of the other guys liked this, of course. Later Ty revealed that he’s been married and divorced. If big surprised eyes mean anything, then Ali’s either disappointed, or thinking about the next hit country song. Jonathan also gets some one-on-one time and calls Craig M. dangerous for Ali. Cue Ali’s big surprised eyes. Either she’s shocked by the news, or she came up with a third verse for Ty’s hit country song. She finds Ty and gives him a rose.

A new date card arrives at the house. A few corny weather-related jokes later, Jesse is named as the invitee. This guy is emerging as a match for Ali. On the outside, he’s a tattooed tough guy, but Ali sees more. A soft-hearted, good-natured man. He was nervous on their date, but by the end, some walls came down and they connected. Her gamble paid off on their date in Vegas, Jesse got a rose.

Before the final rose ceremony, Chris L. told Ali about his family. He’s got two brothers and talked very highly of them and the rest of his family. He’s emerging as a strong family-oriented guy. He hasn’t revealed yet that his mom died recently. He comments about his family: “they are who I am.” I’m trusting him and his teeth a little more now. Roberto spends some time with Ali, assures her he’s doing fine even without seeing her much in the past week. She’s giddy over him. He tells her about his baseball past. He gets a couple of gloves and they toss the ball. To accept baseball is to accept Roberto. There’s a good connection between those two. Later, Kasey’s time with Ali was interrupted by Clark—I mean, Frank the Smotherer and in one-on-one time with Craig M., Ali calls him out on his intentions. His disoriented jumbled responses did him no good. Cut to a shot of Jonathan standing in the shadows as Craig M. walks by. Storms-a-brewin’. Both of these guys are forgetting the reason they are there, however, Jonathan wins the battle by getting the last rose in the ceremony.

Here’s how the roses were dealt:
Frank (from the one-on-one date)
Ty (from the group date)
Jesse (from the one-one date)
Kasey
Hunter
Roberto
Chris L.
Justin
Steve
Kirk
John C.
Craig R.
Chris N.
Jonathan

Elimated were Craig M., Tyler V., and Chris H.

Check back next week for a recap of episode 3!

(click here for Episode 1 recap)

 

Ali Fedotowsky, Meet the Bachelors!

Episode recaps:
episode 4
episode 3
episode 2
episode 1

Here they are in order of the episode 1 rose ceremony:

Roberto: 26-year-old who recently moved to Charleston, SC. He grew up in Tampa, FL learning to admire his parents and wants a relationship like theirs. When he first met Ali, he complimented her, and she complimented him. He also spoke Spanish to her and said he’d teach her to salsa dance. He hadn’t said his name yet so Ali said she’d just call him “Cutie.” Roberto emerges quickly as a fan favorite, and the producers will edit the show that way. He got the first impression rose.
My take: Top three. I expect him to last a long time this season because he seems very likeable.

Justin: 26-year-old entertainment wrestler from Toronto, Canada. He claims he’s a villain in the ring, Mr. Rated-R, but opposite in real life. He appeared comfortable upon meeting Ali, though he was on crutches. In episode 1, he got some one-on-one time and explained the broken foot. Although some guys doubt, he claims he’s “there for the right reasons.” He also received a first impression rose, even after the guys vote him as the one who’s there for the wrong reasons.
My take: Some guys are threatened by him, so they want him eliminated. He seems genuine. Top three because either the audience will love him, or love to hate him, and this is a show producer’s dream.

Jesse: 24-year-old from Peculiar, Missouri. We don’t see much of him in episode 1, but Ali seems to favor him. He gets some one-on-one time with Ali. He brought her a box, about the size of a ring box. Inside is a wood heart, which he made with a jigsaw. His sister recommended the idea, so then he tells Ali more about his sister.
My take: Top ten. The dark horse of the competition. He’s a bit odd, but I like him so far.

Ty: 31-year-old from Franklin, Tennessee. He plays the guitar, his dog is left-pawed. He’s also recently divorced. He’s a classy guy from the country, polite. Ali isn’t bothered by him being a Southerner, she say’s it’s charming.
My take: I like him but don’t see him having a strong connection with Ali. Top ten but not top five.

Craig R.: 27-year-old from Pennsylvania. When he first met Ali he said he was nervous, although he seemed comfortable. He has a fatherly presence. This proved true when he pulled Ali aside, taking it upon himself to inform Ali of those that are here for the wrong reasons. He gives her a little yellow shoe keychain, and keeps one himself. One day he hopes they can pair them up. She appreciates him looking out for her.
My take: He set himself up as a big brother. Not a husband for Ali. Top fifteen but not top ten.

Tyler V.: 25-year-old from Chelsea, Vermont. One of the first things he says to her is that he’s excited she’s there and not flying around with Jake. Their encounter was comfortable.
My take: could be a dark horse. Top fifteen but not top ten.

Frank: 30- or 31-year-old from Chicago or Geneva. He tells Ali that he quit his job to chase his dreams. When he found out Ali was The Bachelorette, he was very excited. He’s the Clark Kent of this season. He’s already said he loves Ali, and they’re getting married. Arriving at the mansion to meet Ali, he climbs out the limo sunroof, so needless to say he’s got a flare for the dramatic. He seems nice, he’s adventurous and sees that same quality in Ali.
My take: he’s a firecracker, so Ali better be careful that he doesn’t blow up. I predict he’ll have some sort of meltdown which will cause his elimination. Top ten, possibly top five because producers love drama.

Steve: 28-year-old from Cleveland, Ohio. When he met Ali, he was comfortable and they had a good conversation. She likes this guy.
My take: Top ten.

Chris L.: 32-year-old from Cape Cod, Massachussetts. He moved to New York to teach at an inner-city public school. This will possibly set him up as an emotional favorite. When he met Ali, he acted a bit creepy. He uses words like “wicked” and lives with his dad, near his brothers. His mom died recently. Again, the emotional favorite.
My take: There’s something guilty about him that I don’t trust. I think it’s his teeth, however, I put him in the top ten, possibly top five.

Kirk: 27-year-old from Green Bay, Wisconsin. He cleverly made a rose out of a red napkin when he first met Ali. Later in the show, he also gave her a homemade scrapbook highlighting his personality. The guys made fun of him for this.
My take: girls like guys that spend time doing something special for them. If he keeps this up, he will go far. Top three.

John C.: 32-year-old from Issaquah, Washington. He talks a big game and aims to back that up by surprising Ali. He begins this crusade by getting down on a knee and giving her a cubic zirconia ring. He then asks for one on one time. She loved it. Sidenote: He believes Justin is a genuine person.
My take: little tricks won’t last. Top ten not top five.

Chris N.: 29-year-old from Orlando, Florida. Cleverly (yet unoriginal at this point) gave her a rose when he first met her. A classy move, though a bit corny. He was comfortable in conversing with her, and that’s about all we saw of Chris N.
My take: Top fifteen not top ten, only because the producers cut him out, they must have a reason.

Chris H.: 27-year-old from Vancouver, Canada. Upon meeting Ali, he was a gentleman. He was smart by keeping it casual. He made a light joke and moved on.
My take: A likeable guy, if he shows more personality and gets some face time with Ali, could go a long way. Top ten.

Hunter: 28-year-old from San Antonio, Texas. When he met Ali, he had something humorous planned, but could only say she was beautiful and he had to use the restroom. She laughed a lot at this and told him where to go. Later in episode 1 he played an original song on a Ukelele. This was clever and funny. Jason (who didn’t get a rose) called him “the nerd that never gets the girl.” He’s closer than Jason is.
My take: The Bob Guiney of this season. He’ll be likeable and funny, but ultimately, won’t end up with Ali. Top fifteen but not top ten.

Craig M.: 33-year-old from Toronto, Canada. He’s a little (or a lot) too into himself and his looks, even saying, “oh yeah!” as he checked himself out in a mirror. He’ll end up being the least-liked Canadian on the show because of his arrogant attitude.
My take: won’t make it to top fifteen.

Jonathan: 30-year-old from Houston, Texas. Claims his secret weapon is his humor. When he met Ali, he brought her a gift. He was very comfortable with her, but this is most likely because he’s a television weatherman. He’s talkative and hogged the conversation when he was with Ali and Craig M. Some of the guys don’t trust him quite yet.
My take: Is he looking for exposure? Outlook is unclear. Top ten but not top five.

Kasey: 27-year-old from California. He’s more of the serious-type. When he met Ali, he confessed his intentions right there on the spot. Ali said it was so sweet. He claims he’ll be there at the end down on one knee. During some one-on-one time, he told Ali he wants to guard and protect her heart. Because his dad cheated on his mom, Kasey is committed to never ever hurting a woman like that. Ali called him chivalrous.
My take: being called “sweet” usually doesn’t end well. If he doesn’t appear to have a rough side, Ali may send him packing. Won’t make it to top fifteen.