The Bachelor: More about Alayah and why she’s hanging out with a Titan

If you’re watching the episodes each week you’ve undoubtedly heard a lot about Alayah in episode 3 (aired 1/20/2020). According to her bio on the show’s website Alayah is a orthodontist assistant from San Antonio, Texas. Her last name is Benavidez, which means “son/servant of God.”

Alayah means “exalted, sublime; to ascend; joyful”. Alayah is an alternate spelling of Alaia (Arabic, Hebrew, Basque).

As a Benavidez, Alayah can expect to live well into her 60s before she’s smells her last rose. Ancestry.com says those with the last name of Benavidez in the USA have a lifespan of upper 60s. Alayah has anywhere from 40 to 45 years left on this earth.

Her full name is Alayah Nicole Benavidez.

She attended UT-San Antonio.

She opened an online boutique called Three Bees Boutique.

She was crowned Miss Texas 2019 back in January of that year. Here’ the winning moment…

She then competed in Miss USA pageant, where she did not make the top 15. Fellow Bachelor contestant Victoria Paul did make the top 15, but not the top 10.

(Victoria P. had open heart surgery as a baby, and is the first in her family to graduate college. She either has or wants to have a Master’s Degree in nursing.)

According to her bio on the Miss USA website, Alayah wants to become a published author.

Alayah has overcome dyslexia as a student.

She’s a dog lover, and has a 110-pound doberman pinscher named Titan, who she likes to run with, as shown here in her Instagram post.

Alayah and Titan

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-Out of the Wilderness

My guilty pleasure: The Bachelor shows

I’m a 40-year old man and I’m an addict. Hi, my name is Ben.

This relationship I have with the Bachelor family of shows started over a decade ago and I’ve always said I can quit whenever I want. It’s not a problem.

But it IS a problem when I wake up Monday morning and think, “Ok, I need to plan my day around the goal of being home by 7pm to watch Bachelor in Paradise.” Or when I become the very proud commissioner of a Bachelor fantasy league at work. And it’s not even the fantasy game ABC created.

We created our own league with our own points and categories and a giant excel sheet. 

To be honest, it was awesome. I loved keeping stats on kisses, who cussed or said “here for the right reasons,” who shows up with a gimmick on episode 1, who gets the first impression rose, and on and on we would go with the circus.

But it’s not like there’s ever been a lot of real romance on the show, even dating back to the very first Bachelor couple, Adam and Eve. There is some romance, for sure. However, the romance we witness rarely leads to marriage. In fact, if I were a divorce lawyer, well, I’d be poor (because of that whole not getting married part) BUT I’d be waiting right behind Neil Lane with a packet of papers and a couple of pens.

Producers pressure you into a premature proposal? Fantasy suite got you all confused about stuff? Pump the brakes and put your trust in me. Hi, my name is Ben. I’ll be your lawyer friend.

…would be my way-too-long slogan. If there were a way to make money off engagement breakups, THEN I’d be more than a poor divorce lawyer. Because this is dating in real life. So why do I, and we, keep coming back? I guess it’s for entertainment value because there sure is a heck of a lot of that. And the drama. With the current cast of Jordan and Blake and Hannah G among others, my heart rate is equal to a brisk jog on a Planet Fitness treadmill.

I guess we could call this post “Confessions of a 40 year old man: Why I admit to watching The Bachelor.” My confession: I just do. I can’t really explain why. With the windmills and the Stagecoach and Jordan being the best cast member ever, we just can’t get enough, can we? 🙂

What are your thoughts about the show and if you’re willing to share, why do you watch? Comment below!

-Out of the Wilderness

The Bachelorette in Chiang Mai, Thailand

The lucky guys are still in Thailand trying to win Ashley’s love and devotion, this time, in Chiang Mai, Thailand. I liked how last week when Ashley announced they’d be going to Chiang Mai, Thailand all the guys cheered. Come on, no one besides Ames really knew where it was. But that’s where they found themselves and so they settle in to the Mandarin Oriental dadada Hotel. Ashley’s monologue about how she’s ready for new beginnings was accompanied by the music of Crystal Pepsi. I became inspired, and thirsty.

This is the first episode featuring a two-on-one date, but first, let’s see who got the one-on-one date. It went to Ben F., the winemaker from California. Their date included two pink shirts, a rickety 3-wheeler and a trip to the downtown market. I was expecting the Thai version of a flash mob, but they made umbrellas, instead. Wouldn’t it be cool if every episode had a flash mob from now on? Anyway, Ben had pink striped shorts on, too. I think it worked but what do I know? I do stuff like this:

After the umbrellas Ben F. and Ashley view an ancient temple. They aren’t allowed to kiss near the temple, so they close their eyes and kiss, Representative Weiner style, a.k.a. in their minds. Later, Ben F. and Ashley eat dinner at a breathtaking picnic setup including candles, flowers, and well, food. Ben F. opens up about his dad dying. Ashley replies with a “rhhhhhhhhhlly” which is a breathy way to say “really.” I suppose that means she was extremely moved by Ben’s story. So when you want someone to know you’re sympathetic, add h’s to the words you uhhhhse. Ben F.’s fan base is sure to grow after this date, so does his chances with Ashley. She gives him the rose that was at stake, then they kiss.

The group date included Constantine, Ames, Nick, Blake, Lucas, Ryan P., J.P., and Mickey. They guys take part in Muay Thai boxing which is basically kickboxing. The guys boxed each other in short one-on-one matches. The matches really could’ve went either way, but there were some winner and losers. Ames lost his match to Ryan P. and actually went to the hospital. He later caught up with the gang at dinner. Ashley pulled him aside to make sure he was alright. Ames explained the doctor said he was suffering from being totally in love… and a mild concussion.

Did anyone else notice the excessive use of cell phone video camera footage? I guess no one’s safe from the budget crunch, eh, ABC? Cheer up, you still have “101 Ways to Leave a Game Show” game show.

Blake gets the rose from the group date, which he accepts and then kisses Ashley. The first two-on-one of the season went to William and Ben C. and one of the guys will go home at the end of the date. William comes across awfully arrogant in his interviews, a side we haven’t really seen before. The three take a log raft ride down a river and I’m suddenly having flashbacks of the one time I watched Deliverance.

William talks separately with Ashley and proceeds to throw Ben under the bus, something he said he wasn’t doing. He told Ashley what Ben said to the guys about wanting to get back to online dating. In a shocking twist, Ben C. is sent home immediately. Ashley and William sit down for dinner where Ashley took a longer than comfortable sip of her drink. Why? Because she was about to send William home, too. Bam. William’s now wondering “…what was Ben C. saying about Match.com again? Or was it OKCupid?”

Later Ashley meets the guys for the cocktail party. She has some ultra boring talks with the guys, sponsored by my DVR. Fast forwarding to the rose ceremony, roses went to: (Ben F. and Blake earlier), Constantine, Lucas, JP, Ames, Mickey, Ryan P. The men sent home were (Ben C. and William earlier), Nick.

Quote of the episode… Ashley: “hhhhhyy gyyyyys” (a breathy “hey guys”)

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The Bachelor Brad Womack, Episode 5: Fantasy Bachelor.

Bachelor Party
From left to right: Couch- Anna, Naomi, Nameless Guy #2, Nameless Guy #1. Floor left: Chris, Ben

 

Episode 5 (01/31/2011)

I have a confession for all you Bachelor readers out there. I’m the self-appointed Commissioner of The Bachelor Fantasy League in Nashville, Tennessee. And when I say Nashville, I mean 8 of my friends. It’s set up a lot like fantasy football with points for different things that could happen each episode. For instance, when a bachelorette kisses Brad Womack, that’s +3 points. Getting a rose is +6 points. Negative points include crying (-1), saying anything about “commitment issues” (-2) and a few other random occurrences. Honestly, and I’m not exaggerating at all, it’s the greatest thing ever. For episode five, I invited League Members to my house. As photographed above, Nameless Guy #1 and #2 were also in attendance. Most of the conversation revolved around the question, “Is Michelle crazy or just forward?” A few doubts were raised about Emily as well. Obviously Mack Braddy feels strongly for Emily, as made evident in the number of moments he took her aside for some one-on-one time. He defended himself by saying he would do the same for any bachelorette he felt needed support.

Shawntel was honored to have the only one-on-one date which went really, really well for her. Just think, even if her time on the show ends with no rose at the final ceremony, she loaded up on some goods that’ll last her longer than an engagement to Brad would. She’s already won. In a bachelor-esque twist, both Ashley’s joined Brad for a two-on-one date. I wouldn’t give my left leg to be Brad on that date. I was sure he’d send Ashley H. home after her breakdown last week, but he ended up sending Ashley S. (the girl from the Seal date) home. I can’t fault him for that, she’s only 22 years old and still has some growing up to do. He’s 38 if you forgot.

Roses went to: Shawntel, Emily, Ashley H., Michelle, Alli, Britt, Jackie, Chantal O. Sent home: Ashley S., Lisa M., Marissa.

The preview for next week in Costa Rica looked promising. You may ask, “Ben, what can I take away from your recap of episode five?” My answer: Honestly, not much. But I’ll leave you with three take aways… 1. I still like Shawntel the most, 2. Emily will not be offered the final rose, 3. Nashville Fantasy Bachelor is the single greatest contribution I’ve given to this world.

Check back next week for a recap of Episode 6, and to find out if I’ve come up with something better to contribute to the world.